Welcome back! I apologize for skipping the pleasantries today, but I wanted to give you a little food for thought; how many chances should you ever give someone to change? 1? 5? An infinite amount? As far as I can remember, I've been a huge pushover for believing there's innate good in everyone. Maybe it's because I've had a fairly rough past and I think someone's also going through a rough patch.
At approximately age 25, it is understood that the brain has stopped maturing*; so, it would be understandable at that point that a person, barring mental/learning capabilities and not the ones who use it as a crutch or for sympathy points while getting away with being crass, CAN eventually learn from their mistakes or wrongdoings.
Rather than having petty arguments that lead to nowhere or stirring up drama betwixt friend circles that included them, I just cut off the source of the issue. I have a very limited reserve in patience when a negative cycle likes to repeat itself. I forgive the person and not even three months later, their poor behavior loops. I consider the loss of one negative person incomparable to the love of many.
I don't consider myself a saint and my faith waivers, but I intend to be the same as I always have; I'm there for those who need me, I am kind at all times if possible and I remove venom when it's spat at me. Modern day behavioral standards like to spin the way I do things as snide, but these are the same people who'll fake smile at you and say the most horrendous things behind closed doors. Remember, if people are talking behind your back, fart.
*(cited from the National Library of Medicine/Arain M, Haque M, Johal L, Mathur P, Nel W, Rais A, Sandhu R, Sharma S. Maturation of the adolescent brain. Neuropsychiatr Dis Treat. 2013;9:449-61. doi: 10.2147/NDT.S39776. Epub 2013 Apr 3. PMID: 23579318; PMCID: PMC3621648.)
Until we connect again, Kind Reader.